There are two basic options in life. Stay as we are, or make a change. However, it can take courage to make the changes we want to in our lives. Staying as we are is simple, it’s easier because we know what it looks like and what will happen. We know deep down we want to make the change; all we have to do is find the courage to take the next step.
In 2007, I went through the Soul Coaching® program a couple of times. Maybe even three times before I knew this was what I wanted to do. I’d previously signed up to a coaching program to become a life coach, but it wasn’t right for me. At the time, I was giving private sittings in mediumship and oracle card readings. I loved it, but people were asking me how to live their life rather than taking responsibility for themselves. This didn’t sit well with me, and Soul Coaching had given me confidence in my life, and I wanted to help people to do the same.
When I told my mum I was going to California to train to become a Soul Coach, she told me not to go. She thought I was off to join some cult and I would never be back. When I asked for some financial support to help me with a hotel for a night, she wouldn’t do it as she didn’t want to give any money away to them. Of course, there is no cult to Soul Coaching and I came back a much better person for it, but change doesn’t affect only us, it affects those around us too. People will tell us not to change, not to do things and this is where the courage in change comes in.
In normal circumstances, I would have listened to my mum. I wouldn’t have signed up and I would have stayed doing something else, not doing what I felt called to do. However, standing my ground and letting her know I would be okay, allowed me to step into my own power and make the change. And I wouldn’t look back on what I’ve done. The funny thing is, when I came back to the UK and ran one of my first Soul Coaching workshops, mum was there supporting me.
Over to you … Having Courage to Change
From your list you made in the previous blog, Finding Clarity for Change, what is one area of your life you’ve wanted to change but not been able to? Answer the following questions to help you gain more clarity on whether this is the right change for you.
- What will I gain if I make this change?
- What will happen if I don’t make this change? I’ll stay the same is the probable answer here, but dig deeper:
- What would your life look like if I didn’t make this change?
- What is really stopping me from making this change?
- Am I ready to make this change?
- What would I need to do next to make this change?
The answers to these questions will help confirm that this is change you want to make for yourself. The first step is getting comfortable with the change you want to make. The next step is where the fun starts.