Day Three – The Element of Fire

Day Three is all about the Element of Fire, and there’s more to Fire than just the physical aspect of fire. It is the sun and the stars, it’s the electricity that powers much of our lives, but it is also connected to the Spiritual aspect of ourselves, the spark of life we have within us. When we connect to the element of fire, we are inviting transformation into our lives. Like the mythical phoenix rising from the ashes, when we release the old, we are able to step into our new way of life and being.

“In ancient times, fire was thought to be a gift from the gods that carried the spark of life and the power of renewal. We honor the power of fire because it can maintain life— and it can destroy it. It is the warmth of the hearth, but it is also the lightening bolt cast down from the sky. It can purify and transform—and it can annihilate. It is the etheric light of the aurora borealis, and it is the erupting volcano. It is the mediator between the visible and the invisible between energy and form. It is also all radiant and electrical phenomena. And the ultimate symbol of fire is the sun.”

~ Denise Linn, Soul Coaching®


From the moment you read this, to the moment you close your eyes, think about the element of fire and how it shows up in your life. Focus on the sunlight as it shows up in your life, and the way the rays of light dance around. If you can, light a candle and watch the way the flame dances and give yourself the opportunity to dance along, moving with abandonment as you give yourself permission to let your spirit play. Play music which calls for movement, and don’t worry about who may be watching – dance as though no one can see you.

Journal Exercise: Replacing Should for Could

The Element of Fire feels like action for me, it’s all the things we could be doing in our lives, but aren’t for a million and one reasons. It also has the energy to change the way we do things to give us the fire to do the things we really want to do as well. In life, we have many things we should be doing.

For example, I should be going to the gym. I should start dating. I should look for a new job. I should always take an umbrella with me. I should read that book because so and so recommended it to me. I should … I should … I should…

How many do you have?

The word itself implies that if you don’t do these things, you’re in the wrong. Write down a list of all the things you should be doing. Take your time with this exercise as opposed to doing it quickly. Think about all the things you should be doing, and when you have a few items, ask yourself “who says I should?”

This is a powerful question to ask yourself because too often we are doing things and it’s come from the ideals of others. When we challenge our own thinking, we’re able to step away from the things that don’t bring us joy.

Now look at your list again, and rewrite it.

This time, we are going to replace the word should for could, and add but I choose not to at this time. I could go to the gym, but I choose not to at this time. I could look for a new job, but I choose not to at this time. I could finish this relationship, but I choose not to at this time.

When we recognise we have a choice in what we do, we can do anything and certainly be able to do the things that bring us more joy but releasing the old expectations that we have of ourselves.

Clutter Clearing – Kitchen

We are headed to the kitchen for today’s clutter clearing exercise, and it’s time to look in those drawers and cupboards for the things that are way beyond their expiry date, and you’ve not had in years. I know – that’s me, but clearing clutter in your kitchen can activate more abundance in your life, so it’s worth doing.

As the kitchen can be a large room and lots to do, I really recommend doing drawer by drawer and cupboard by cupboard. Work out how much time you have and then halve it so you can spend half the time sorting through, and the other half of the time throwing out, cleaning and putting away.

When you’re clutter clearing, and putting back, think about the movement and ease of access to the things in your kitchen. For example, in your cutlery drawer can you get to everything you need on a daily basis, or are you sorting through things to find the one thing you need. Do you have more than one of the same items – such as potato mashers – and which one do you use, or which one is gathering dust?

As you clear the clutter in your kitchen, think about how you want to feel in this part of your home. When we clutter clear for the sake of clutter clearing, it can be something we have to do as opposed to wanting to do it. When you think about how you want to feel when you’re done – it can add to the energy of the clutter clearing and give it a purpose.

Additional Clutter Clearing Information

Clearing clutter is the ultimate way to make changes in your life, as well as clearing out what you no longer need. Clutter, for me, is defined as something that I don’t love or don’t use anymore. When I release the physical objects surrounding me, I’m inviting new experiences into my life that I couldn’t have before. Here are the steps I take to clear clutter, which may be of inspiration to you.

Set a Time Limit It is important before you start any clutter clearing, that you know how long you’ve got. You may think that you have all the time in the world, and it will take you no time at all, but actually it can be a bigger job than that. If you have an hour to clutter clear a space, then split the time in half. Thirty minutes would be dedicated to sorting through and clearing the clutter. The second half would give you time to get rid of the clutter, put back the objects that you love and leave you a clean space that will feel uplifting and clutter free. You can do this for smaller amounts of time too, so if you only have twenty minutes to spare, then split that into two rounds of clearing and then disposing of your clutter.

Clear the Surface Sometimes there is “stuff” accumulated on top of the clutter. It can be a powerful exercise to clear away the surface first. This way you can see exactly what clutter you have to clear. This is really handy when you have stuff you want to go through later when you have more time, enabling you to deal with or release the things that you need to do.

Four Boxes This is the most important part of clutter clearing itself. You will need to get four boxes or bags and label them as “Throw Away,” “Give Away/Donate,” “Recycle,” “Maybe Later/Store” and “Keep”. The names are quite simple, and should be self explanatory. The only thing I will say is that your “Maybe Later/Store” box should have an expiration date. Whatever you put in that box, seal it up at the end and put a date on it that is in six months time. If you’ve not needed anything in the box by that date, then you can give it away.

Questions to Ask Yourself The following questions will help you when you are going through your things to find out if it is clutter or not.

  1. Do I love it?
  2. Do I use it?
  3. Do I really need this?
  4. Does this fit who I am? Does this fit who I desire to be in the future?
  5. Does this make my energy go up, down, or remain neutral?

After answering these questions, decide if the object you are holding is clutter. Ask yourself, “Do I want to throw this away, give it away or sell it, recycle it, keep it, or store it for another time?” There is a place inside of you that knows the exact right answer. And there is immense power in making a decision. Decide quickly and go to the next item. It works well to decide quickly. This gets your conscious mind out of the way and makes room for your inner knowing to come forward.

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