“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
This is one of my favourite quotes, and has helped me through a lot of situations in my life. No matter what happens, I know that I have the power in everything I do. That may seem a strange concept, because there are many things out of our control. However, we have the power to decide how someone makes us feel, how we feel about a situation and what we are going to do about it.
I do not consider myself a confident person. To many, I appear that way, but sometimes it can take a lot of courage and talking to myself in order to get things done. I procrastinate on things too, which is a sense of my confidence in getting things done, and when I leave things to the last minute I have the power and strength to move through it and get things done. This isn’t ideal though, as I will work late at night or get up early to complete tasks.
Recently, married life has shown me many things, which have changed the way I look at life and what I am doing. Rather than doing things I don’t want to, I say no more; because when I say no, I am giving myself permission to spend more time with my husband and do things together – things that I love.
Over to you … Power
Where in your life do you need the power to say no, when you’d normally say yes? One thing I did was to come up with a persona, Alex, who loved to say no. It may sound funny, but when I wanted to say no to something, but didn’t know how, I would ask Alex to step in for me. The trick I learnt to was to not give a reason for it, and Alex was great at that! Now, I say no more often as Terry, as opposed to Alex as I’ve seen the benefit of not saying yes all the time.